I want to discuss “Valentines Day Disappointment.”

So often we have preconceived expectations of love. I remember when Bobby and I were in our late 30’s and attending a Young Adult Sunday school class doing a series on marriage. Every Sunday I left class feeling depressed and unloved because someone would say “my husband runs my bath for me and lights candles.” Then another “my husband writes me “love notes weekly .” I was lucky if Bobby even said “I love you” to me. The enemy weaved into my mind the thought “your husband doesn’t love you.” It wasn’t until I was almost 50 I realized Bobby’s love language was works.

To be honest, even after learning his love language I still struggle at times because my love language craves affection. Bobby is Bobby. He’s not going to ever be the lovey dovey type. I had to just finally accept it. I choose to love him like he is. Praying and knowing God never intended for me to expect my husband or anyone else to totally fulfill me, only He can do that.
Yesterday I knew I would not get anything for Valentines. We don’t do all that, but yesterday Bobby washed the laundry in the basement and brought it back up so I didn’t have to go up and down the stairs- that was him saying “I love you.” People need to see through the eyes of God’s love. I have to pray daily too! Realize love can be expressed in many different ways and be grateful. Guard your mind and guard your heart with love.

Thoughts on Job


Although Job had lived a blameless and upright life, fearing God and shunning evil (1:1), he was not perfect. He speaks here of ‘the sins of my youth’ (13:26) and says, ‘My offences will be sealed up in a bag; you will cover over my sin’ (14:17).

The mistake that Job’s friends made was to think that his suffering was linked to his sin. Job becomes increasing frustrated with his friends. They go on about ‘sin’ (11:6,14) and effectively heap condemnation on Job (v.5). They do not offer Job any real comfort.

Eventually Job turns around and replies, ‘But I have a mind as well as you; I am not inferior to you. Who does not know all these things?’ (12:3). ‘What you know, I also know’ (13:2). He points out to them that it would be best for them to say nothing: ‘If only you would be altogether silent! For you, that would be wisdom’ (v.5).

We need to pray for wisdom when people are suffering so we don’t just speak in “scriptural properness” but, demonstrate God’s wonderful love by our actions; being very compassionate and discerning in what we say.

March 1-6, 2021 Schedule

Bible Chapter:  3 John

The Gifts of Imperfections

The Things That Get In The Way Pg 31-34

Bible Chapter:  Jude

The Gifts of Imperfections

The Things That Get In The Way Pg 35-38

Bible Chapter: Matthew 1

The Gifts of Imperfections

Shame Resilience 101  Pg 38-42

Bible Chapter: Matthew 2

The Gifts of Imperfections

Shame Researcher Heal Thyself Pg 42-46

Bible Chapter: Matthew 3

The Gifts of Imperfections

What Does Shame Look Like Pg 46-47

Bible Chapter: Matthew 4

The Gifts of Imperfections

Read Cultivating Authenticity Chapter

BREAK/Self-care

The Gift of Imperfection Schedule

Week of February 22-26, 2021

Monday:

Exploring the Power of Love, Belonging, and Being Enough

Tuesday

Defining Love and Belonging

Wednesday

Practicing Love and Belonging

Thursday

Discuss 1 John 4:4

 But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.  1 John 4:4

Friday

Read “The Things That Get In The Way.”