Awakened Decision

There comes a time in our lives when we have to make hard, heartbreaking decisions. We have to come to the realization:

1. We can’t change anyone no matter how hard we try, pray, threaten, nag, plead or beg. It’s their choice. Only God can if they allow the Holy Spirit to change their heart.

2. If you yourself are drowning in your own pool of sin, torment and struggling reach out for help instead of blaming everyone else. Take ownership!

3. No one, I repeat NO HUMAN is perfect. Quit beating yourself up because someone can’t forgive you. Move on!

Surround yourself with Holy Spirit filled people who truly love you in spite of your imperfections and who will pray for you, teach and encourage you to mature and grow in God.

Get away from people who have no desire to help you become godlier and spirit filled!

Me and Peter

I have to confess that like so many of those in the Bible who though chosen by God, still failed Him. I have failed terribly!

I can relate a lot to Peter, always running my mouth when I should be quiet. Boastful, overzealous and a know it all!

Peter actually thought he knew more than Jesus! Can you imagine that? Yet, how many times have I tried to solve my problems through means I knew were not in agreement with Jesus?

I am thankful God my Father loves me enough to rope me in and discipline me. I am amazed at the faithfulness and compassion God shows to me.

Remember the Israelites and how ungrateful and unfaithful they were after all God did to rescue them from Egypt, yet God in His infinite love continued to pursue them!

What a patient and loving God He is. How could I ever fail Him?

Lord, forgive me for my lack of faith and joy after all you have done for me!

Let me be a grateful and faithful woman of God.

Thoughts on Job

Although Job had lived a blameless and upright life, fearing God and shunning evil (1:1), he was not perfect. He speaks here of ‘the sins of my youth’ (13:26) and says, ‘My offences will be sealed up in a bag; you will cover over my sin’ (14:17).

The mistake that Job’s friends made was to think that his suffering was linked to his sin. Job becomes increasing frustrated with his friends. They go on about ‘sin’ (11:6,14) and effectively heap condemnation on Job (v.5). They do not offer Job any real comfort.

Eventually Job turns around and replies, ‘But I have a mind as well as you; I am not inferior to you. Who does not know all these things?’ (12:3). ‘What you know, I also know’ (13:2). He points out to them that it would be best for them to say nothing: ‘If only you would be altogether silent! For you, that would be wisdom’ (v.5).

We need to pray for wisdom when people are suffering so we don’t just speak in “scriptural properness” but, demonstrate God’s wonderful love by our actions; being very compassionate and discerning in what we say.

Shame Resilience/What Does Shame Look Like?

The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene’ Brown, Ph.D.

 The four elements of shame resilience: 

  • Name it. 
  • Talk about it. 
  • Own your story. 
  • Tell the story.

Story is about worthiness and embracing the imperfections that bring us courage, compassion, and connection. If we want to live fully, without the constant fear of not being enough, we have to own our story. We also have to respond to shame in a way that doesn’t exacerbate our shame. One way to do that is to recognize when we’re in shame so we can react with intention.

 GUILT definition from the Cambridge English Dictionary, a feeling of worry or unhappiness that you have because you have done something wrong, such as causing harm to another person.

SHAME definition from the Cambridge English Dictionary, a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. If something is described as a shame, it is disappointing or not satisfactory.

Cruelty is never brave—it’s mostly cheap and easy, especially in today’s culture.

Shame Resilience 101

The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene’ Brown Ph.D.

“‘Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.’”

Shame causes us to feel unworthy and unlovable. Even when my Yorkie (Lilly) does something she knows is wrong – like chewing up my favorite pair of reading glasses; poor Lilly will hang her head in shame. Shame limits her usually happy and friendly personality.

“Here are the first three things that you need to know about shame: 

  • We all have it. Shame is universal and one of the most primitive human emotions that we experience. The only people who don’t experience shame lack the capacity for empathy and human connection. 
  • We’re all afraid to talk about shame. 
  • The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives.”


“In addition to the fear of disappointing people or pushing them away with our stories, we’re also afraid that if we tell our stories, the weight of a single experience will collapse upon us. There is a real fear that we can be buried or defined by an experience that, in reality, is only a sliver of who we are.”

YES!! Brene’ Brown just hit the nail on the head! If I tell people–will they ever be able to look at me without blame or pity or worse—disgust in their eyes? Will they think I am foolish or weak minded? What if? What if? What if? FEAR is huge! In my eyes the swamp may be filled with a lot of hungry alligators just waiting to chew me up.

“Shame needs three things to grow out of control in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgment. When something shaming happens and we keep it locked up, it festers and grows. It consumes us. We need to share our experience. Shame happens between people, and it heals between people. If we can find someone who has earned the right to hear our story, we need to tell it. Shame loses power when it is spoken. In this way, we need to cultivate our story to let go of shame, and we need to develop shame resilience in order to cultivate our story. After a decade of research, I found that men and women with high levels of shame resilience share these four elements: 

  • They understand shame and recognize what messages and expectations trigger shame for them.
  •  They practice critical awareness by reality-checking the messages and expectations that tell us that being imperfect means being inadequate. 
  • They reach out and share their stories with people they trust. 
  • They speak shame—they use the word shame, they talk about how they’re feeling, and they ask for what they need.”

Tomorrow we will discuss the difference between guilt and shame. 

Is it not natural and necessary to feel like a quilt whenever we do something wrong or immoral? Shouldn’t we be ashamed?

1 John 2 Highlights

To people who are feeling guilty and condemned, John offers reassurance. They know they have sinned and Satan (called “the accuser of our brothers and sisters ” Revelation 2:10) demands the death penalty for them. When you feel this way, don’t give up hope–the best defense attorney in the universe is pleading your case, Jesus Christ. He is your advocate and defender.

  1. Jesus paid the penalty for our sins.
  2. We should express love for  one another not only by respecting each other but also through self-sacrifice (selfless giving) and serving others.
  3. We cannot grow spiritually if we hate others.
  4. Our relationship with God is affected by our relationship with others.
  5. Christian love is not a feeling but a choice.
  6. Young and old will battle with temptation.
  7. Worldliness can be characterized as:

Craving for physical pleasure.

Craving for the accumulation of things.

Pride in our achievements and possessions.

Obsession with status or importance.

  1. Anyone who denies the divinity of the Father and the Son is an antichrist.
  2. If you are saved you have the anointing of the Holy Spirit.
  3. Christ lives in us through the Holy Spirit.
  4. Remain in fellowship with Christ.
  5. Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit.
  6. Be full of courage and do not be ashamed of your faith in Jesus Christ.