Enabler

ENABLER

What is an “ENABLER?”

  • a person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behavior in another.
    “being an enabler to an addict does more harm than good”

Are you an “ENABLER?”

Here are some characteristics of enablers:

  1. Enablers avoid conflict to keep the peace.
  2. Enablers are in denial about the seriousness of their loved one’s addiction.
  3. Enablers bottle their emotions.
  4. Enablers think the problem will improve, given time.
  5. Enablers lecture, blame and criticize their addicted loved one.
  6. Enablers take on the responsibilities of the addicted.
  7. Enablers repeatedly come to the rescue of the addicted one.
  8. Enablers do whatever it takes to protect their loved one from pain.
  9. Enablers treat the addicted person like a child.
  10. Enablers financially support their loved one, even if that person is a grown adult.
  11. Enablers try to control the dependent person.
  12. Enablers endure. They think this is just a season.
  13. Enablers are always willing to give “just one more chance”, and then another, and another, and so on.
  14. Enablers can join in on the problem activity, even though they know it is harmful to the dependent person.

Is enabling always about substance abuse or addiction? 

 Enabling can describe any situation where you “help” by attempting to hide problems or make them go away.

God Crazy

I am not crazy like the world considers or defines crazy, but I am conflicted and fighting a truly real spiritual warfare battle. It rages wildly and strongly. 

The desire of the enemy is to destroy me and you. He desires to kill our spirit, to keep us from praying. He desires to discourage us and keep us so self centered that we will give up and walk away from our family in search of self “satisfaction” instead of standing strong in faith and fighting through the battle with Holy Ghost inspired faith and prayer for our family. He wants us to give up and instead meet our own selfish desires.

Believe me, I am often tempted to walk away from the daily torments, but as the old hymn goes “I’ve come too far to turn back now! Does that mean I don’t get weary? NO! Does that mean my heart, soul, body and mind doesn’t ache and cry out in pain? NO! But friends, I know who my Savior is. I deserve death, HE DIDN’T”T! I deserve to be tormented, HE DIDN’T”!

I will not cease praying! I will not cease crying out to GOD! I will not stop believing in my GOD who has never ever failed me!!

I BELIEVE FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!!

I BELIEVE MY GOD CAN DELIEVER AND SAVE!!!

KEEP THE FAITH MY FRIENDS!!!

Without Him

I have failed God more times than I can count, but HE has never failed me.

I have wallowed in self pity and doubt.

I have been disobedient and willful. Demanded my own way. Selfish and ungrateful. 

Downright foolish and arrogant many times.

Knowing I was wrong, knowing I needed help, but refusing to change.

Why?

I would always say “It’s not because I don’t trust God, I do trust Him, but I don’t trust me. I have no confidence in myself.”

The truth is IF I HAVE FAITH IN GOD THEN, I CAN HAVE FAITH IN MYSELF, but I never could grasp that concept. Still I struggle with it. 

If I trust God then, I can trust him completely.

My faith is in Him, not in me.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1

Confidence in what Christ can do in and through me. Confidence in what the Holy Spirit is leading, teaching and guiding me into each day as I seek the Lord. My faith, hope and confidence is not in me, but in Christ.

It is only when I focus my eyes on what Christ can do in me that I can believe I can be forgiven, restored and continually renewed. Without a continued confidence, faith and hope in Christ I would be lost. Just like the words of one of my favorite songs.

Without him, I could do nothing

Without him, I’d surely fail

Without him, I would be drifting

Like a ship without a sail

Jesus

Oh Jesus

Do you know him today?

Do not turn him away

Oh Jesus

Oh Jesus

Without him, how lost I would be

Without him, I would be dying

Without him, I’d be enslaved

Without him, life would be hopeless

But with Jesus, thank God I’m saved

Grandmother

I’m not the momma anymore, I’m the grandmother, aka “Nannie or Ninnie.”

It is amazing how quickly life roles reverse.

One day you’re the child, then you’re the mom, and before you can even scratch your watch or wind your head band you are the grandma!!! I kid you not! It happens almost overnight!

Just yesterday I was sitting in my grandmother’s kitchen eating breakfast. Now, I look at pictures taken today and I wonder, ‘Who is that old lady? I know I am fat, but I forgot I was old!!!

Oh, the cycle of life.

If I can be half as loving, generous with love as my grandparents were I have big shoes to fill.

Things are so different now. I really do fear for my grandchildren.My hope is only found in my faith in God.

I will not cease to pray for my children and grandchildren.

Precious Memory

My brother DeWayne and I often spent the night with my Nannie Jackson in her home at Route 1 Jefferson.

The bedtime ritual was we all three climbed into her double bed. We each prayed silently.

When we had finished our prayers each one of us would individual say out loud “Amen” when we were done praying.

None of us would talk until everyone had said “Amen.”Then, my Nannie Jackson would always say, “If you need me, call me.”

I never realized how blessed I was until I became a Nannie. Now, I tell my grandbabies “if you need me, call me.”

Little is Much

If you have any age on you at all, you know who Bill Gaither and the Gaither Vocal Band are.

If you attended church anytime between 1930 and 1970 you will know and recognize the lyrics of this song. We sang it often, back before praise and worship music became the thing.

In the harvest field now ripened

There’s a work for all to do

Hark! the Master’s voice is calling

To the harvest calling you

Does the place you’re called to labor

Seem so small and little known?

It is great if a God is in it

For He’ll not forsake His own

Little is much when God is in it!

Labor not for wealth or fame

There’s a crown, and you can win it

If you go in Jesus’ name

And when the conflict has ended

And our race on earth is run

He will say, if you’ve been faithful

“Welcome home, My child—well done!”

Little is much when God is in it!

Labor not for wealth or fame

There’s a crown, and you can win it

If you go…

If you go…

If you go in Jesus’ name

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: Kreiger Conrad / Kreiger Donna / Suffield F W Mrs

Family Reunions

Do you remember growing up when you couldn’t wait to go to your Granny or Nannie’s so you could play with your cousins?

Do you remember begging your mama “please can cousin so and so come home with us?”

Can you remember football games in the front yard between cousins and neighbors?

Can you remember your dad having softball games with his cousins, brothers and neighbors?

Do you remember family reunions where more than a handful showed up?

Family reunions with pickin and singing took place?

I do.

I remember and my heartbreaks because technology and politics has robbed so many people of what truly matters.

Vengeance

Punishment inflicted or retribution exacted for an injury or wrong.

Have you ever wanted to inflict hurt on someone because of the pain and hurt they had caused you?

Have you ever wanted someone to feel the same hurt or humiliation you felt?

I have.

I have never known how to deal with rejection, being used or spiteful attacks. It has always been one of my greatest weaknesses.

God’s word tells us:

19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.  Romans 12

Why should we leave vengeance in God’s hand?

  1. Because His love is unconditional.  He doesn’t just love you, He also loves the one who has offended you.
  2. He will not just do what is best for you, but he will do what will bring healing and restoration to all.
  3. He is not just a God of today. He is the God of yesterday, today and tomorrow–He and He alone knows what is best for everyone involved.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart

    and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways submit to him,

    and he will make your paths straight.

Never trust in your own knowledge, always trust in the Lord.