Giving Wisely

The truth is – you can’t be giving to everyone.

Some people, not everyone, but some people as the old saying goes “if you give them an inch they will take a mile.”

It makes giving complicated and it shouldn’t.

We should be able to help others out of love believing they receive it with a grateful and thankful heart. Unfortunately, not everyone does. With some, the more you give them, the more they expect from you. Instead of working to do better for themselves they continue to look to others to supply their needs. The sad part is they actually laugh and make fun of the people giving and serving them instead of being grateful and thankful. These people see those who are giving to them as “fools” manipulated by their sad stories and lies.

What would Jesus do?

That my friend is the million dollar question. The truth is Jesus would be able to discern without doubt the truly appreciative receivers from the manipulative users. This is what we should pray for discernment and knowledge. 

No matter who we give to- If we give with a pure heart – God will bless us. But, at the same time we should not encourage deceitfulness and manipulate behavior from anyone.

Search the word and pray over every single thing you do for direction and guidance. 

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart

    and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways submit to him,

    and he will make your paths straight.

Estranged Daughter (ED)

Tomorrow my ED will be 36.

I remember finding out I was pregnant just six months after having her sister.

I was so confused and to be honest depressed. I knew their father was a mess. I knew by now he was not willing or able to take care of a family. I knew without doubt I would be on my own with two babies.

I decided to have an abortion. I thought it would be the financially wise decision. I couldn’t possible support and care for two babies by myself. I only had a high school education.

I called and scheduled the abortion for a Saturday. On the Wednesday before when I got off work I drove by a church I had attended when I was a young girl. I felt really drawn to go inside to the 7pm service. I went in and slipped onto the back row seat.

The pastor whom I had never met was preaching about the love of God, the mercy and goodness of God. That night I literally believed and know I heard God tell me “If you will live for me and trust me, you and your children will never do without.

From that night forward I have lived for God. I did not have an abortion and God provided for me and my children above and beyond financially anything I could have ever imagined.

My ED I have not seen in two years is a gift and a blessing and I have no doubt God will restore this relationship. If you are not a God believer, then skip my post, but if you are a believer then–I have no doubt what God can do!!! Follow to find out what a mighty God HE IS!!!

Pasta Pieces

Earlier I put on some angel hair pasta. My Atlanta grand babies were coming to visit and they love my angel hair pasta and Alfredo sauce.

I had bought the new pot size box of angel hair pasta and I was excited. I turned the water on to boil and when it finally heated up enough to begin boiling I was easily able to put the pasta in the water.

No breaking of the pasta with little pieces flying off into the air— just—dropped the pre-cut pasta into the pot. Perfection!! I left the pasta to cook and became busy attending to the Alfredo sauce and garlic bread.

While I was distracted, suddenly I hear a sizzling sound. Instantly, I knew what it was. My pasta boiling over. Yikes!!! A boiling pot unchecked always makes a mess.Have you ever made a mess? I have.

Unchecked emotions get out of control. I may think I have it under control, but if I am not careful when I hold on to irritations they eventually turn into resentment. I may not mean for it to, but if I don’t deal with it spiritually, it will begin to boil inside of me like that pasta I cooked. It will keep boiling and eventually anger will explode right out of my mouth scorching whoever it touches.

James 1:19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

We all make mistakes, but humility and honesty with ourselves about why we are upset is often the key to management of anger. Casting our burdens on God and trusting and believing He loves us gives us the confidence to be free.

Living Jesus

Today, I saw a deer lying on the side of the road who had been hit by a car and left to die. 

There have been times that I have felt like a deer hit by a car and left for dead. Left to be pecked apart by vulchers. Usually, and unfortunately those vulchers are Christians and close family members.

Have you been there my friend?

We all have. The most earth shaking part is we ourselves have often been THAT Christian and THAT close family member at times. We have spoken words in anger. We have withheld comfort. We have ignored those who needed help. We have choosen our own desires over the will of God.

We see people hurting and struggling, but we don’t have time for them. We are too busy. We go to church and that should be enough. We read our Bible, we say our prayers and that should be enough. We have our own family and business to take care of.  God forbid, He should actually expect us to step out of our comfort zone and help someone else.

Jesus’ ministry was filled with Him touching lives, changing lives, healing and bringing deliverance. If we are Christians then we are to be followers of Christ. Whose life is being changed or delivered by you? Are you living life or making a difference in others lives?

Jesus made a difference in every life He touched.

Oh, to be more like Jesus.

Life Decisions

When I was twenty one years old I was facing the most difficult decision I personally had ever made. While discussing it with someone older and wiser than me and I remember them telling me “One day you will look back and realize this will not be the biggest decision of your life.” They were right, but to this day it is a decision I still remember and often wonder about with regret.

We have all heard the phrase “I wish I knew then, what I know now.” The truth is none of us can see into the future. None of us can one hundred percent plan our future. Sure, we can try our best. We can plot out our course with expert determination, but it does not guarantee we will get the results we want. Love happens, death happens, illnesses, pregnancy, inflation, earthquakes, recessions, accidents — all of these things can cause our plans to change.

Actually, some of the worst things that happened to me and many others brought us to our greatest blessings. How?

Remember Job? The last of his life he was restored everything he lost and gained even more. Why? Because he never cursed God. He remained faithful to God.

What about Joseph? Even though he was treated terribly by his own brothers. Lied about and falsely imprisoned. He never stopped serving God. Through Joseph’s faithfulness he was rewarded and was able to bless even those who had wronged him.

Now let’s think about Peter, I can truly relate to poor Peter. Peter denied Christ and cursed when Christ needed him the most. He could have run away, ashamed to ever show his face again. He could have become and alcoholic and drowned his quilt. No, Peter chooses to seek redemption in Christ and in spite of his failure served Him with boldness.

Each of these men had life decisions to make in the midst of uncertain and trying situations. They made the right decisions by trusting and believing in God NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED!

Each of us has the same decision to make when life presents difficult situations. Just like Job, Joseph and Peter we too can make the right decision.

Joshua 24

14 “Now therefore fear the Lord and serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness. Put away the gods that your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the Lord. 15 And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

Faithful and True

Tonight I am thankful that the God I serve does not stop loving you because you become old.

He does not stop caring about you because of the size of your bank account.

He does not stop withholding his love because of the color of your skin or your educational background.

My God doesn’t care if you wear the latest fashions or drive a newer car.

My God looks at my heart, He hears me when I talk to Him.

He is not impressed by petty things or boastful numbers and proclamations.

He searches for faith and humility.

He is faithful and true.

Sowing & Reaping

I planted these Zinnias from seed early June. I am finally seeing my first bloom. I also planted some daisies, but have yet to see any possibility of buds. I will, like my Heavenly Father, keep watching and doing everything I can to encourage production.

Sowing and reaping still amazes me!

I am thankful I have come to realize even when we do everything we can sometimes the results are not always a reflection of our effort, but rather a result of circumstances beyond our control.

Enabler

ENABLER

What is an “ENABLER?”

  • a person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behavior in another.
    “being an enabler to an addict does more harm than good”

Are you an “ENABLER?”

Here are some characteristics of enablers:

  1. Enablers avoid conflict to keep the peace.
  2. Enablers are in denial about the seriousness of their loved one’s addiction.
  3. Enablers bottle their emotions.
  4. Enablers think the problem will improve, given time.
  5. Enablers lecture, blame and criticize their addicted loved one.
  6. Enablers take on the responsibilities of the addicted.
  7. Enablers repeatedly come to the rescue of the addicted one.
  8. Enablers do whatever it takes to protect their loved one from pain.
  9. Enablers treat the addicted person like a child.
  10. Enablers financially support their loved one, even if that person is a grown adult.
  11. Enablers try to control the dependent person.
  12. Enablers endure. They think this is just a season.
  13. Enablers are always willing to give “just one more chance”, and then another, and another, and so on.
  14. Enablers can join in on the problem activity, even though they know it is harmful to the dependent person.

Is enabling always about substance abuse or addiction? 

 Enabling can describe any situation where you “help” by attempting to hide problems or make them go away.

God Crazy

I am not crazy like the world considers or defines crazy, but I am conflicted and fighting a truly real spiritual warfare battle. It rages wildly and strongly. 

The desire of the enemy is to destroy me and you. He desires to kill our spirit, to keep us from praying. He desires to discourage us and keep us so self centered that we will give up and walk away from our family in search of self “satisfaction” instead of standing strong in faith and fighting through the battle with Holy Ghost inspired faith and prayer for our family. He wants us to give up and instead meet our own selfish desires.

Believe me, I am often tempted to walk away from the daily torments, but as the old hymn goes “I’ve come too far to turn back now! Does that mean I don’t get weary? NO! Does that mean my heart, soul, body and mind doesn’t ache and cry out in pain? NO! But friends, I know who my Savior is. I deserve death, HE DIDN’T”T! I deserve to be tormented, HE DIDN’T”!

I will not cease praying! I will not cease crying out to GOD! I will not stop believing in my GOD who has never ever failed me!!

I BELIEVE FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!!

I BELIEVE MY GOD CAN DELIEVER AND SAVE!!!

KEEP THE FAITH MY FRIENDS!!!

Without Him

I have failed God more times than I can count, but HE has never failed me.

I have wallowed in self pity and doubt.

I have been disobedient and willful. Demanded my own way. Selfish and ungrateful. 

Downright foolish and arrogant many times.

Knowing I was wrong, knowing I needed help, but refusing to change.

Why?

I would always say “It’s not because I don’t trust God, I do trust Him, but I don’t trust me. I have no confidence in myself.”

The truth is IF I HAVE FAITH IN GOD THEN, I CAN HAVE FAITH IN MYSELF, but I never could grasp that concept. Still I struggle with it. 

If I trust God then, I can trust him completely.

My faith is in Him, not in me.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1

Confidence in what Christ can do in and through me. Confidence in what the Holy Spirit is leading, teaching and guiding me into each day as I seek the Lord. My faith, hope and confidence is not in me, but in Christ.

It is only when I focus my eyes on what Christ can do in me that I can believe I can be forgiven, restored and continually renewed. Without a continued confidence, faith and hope in Christ I would be lost. Just like the words of one of my favorite songs.

Without him, I could do nothing

Without him, I’d surely fail

Without him, I would be drifting

Like a ship without a sail

Jesus

Oh Jesus

Do you know him today?

Do not turn him away

Oh Jesus

Oh Jesus

Without him, how lost I would be

Without him, I would be dying

Without him, I’d be enslaved

Without him, life would be hopeless

But with Jesus, thank God I’m saved